"Your happiness exists in one place, and that is inside of you; 
and it exists in one time, and that is right now."

– Emily Fletcher

Have you ever found yourself saying, "I'll be happy when..."?


Meditation expert and founder of Ziva Meditation, Emily Fletcher, explains in this 2-minute clip from her talk at A-Fest, why our all-encompassing need to consume is symptomatic of a bigger issue affecting humanity: emptiness.

We live in a consumer society that is constantly fixated on the end goal - something that is always just eluding us, slightly over the rainbow.

You could fill in the gaps with any number of variables: ten thousand dollars, a shiny new car, an engagement ring, that dream job promotion - it doesn't matter.

What does matter is that we understand exactly how our need to consume is damaging our relationships, our environment - and our self-esteem.

Because at the crux of any consumerist society is an ongoing, never-ending, permeating belief that we are not enough.

That if we were to just consume a little bit more, to achieve a little bit more, to do a little bit more... then we'd finally be happy.

But there's a reason why even the wealthiest, most beloved, and seemingly successful celebrities are privy to crashing and burning, despite outwardly living The Perfect Life — and it's because searching for an external solution to an internal problem will never work.

In fact, the "I'll be happy when..." syndrome is the mistaken belief that we can consume our way to happiness — notably, to the detriment of our presence, our relationships, and our happiness.

As Emily says, anything we try to fix with plastic packaging is an addiction. If we think that the solution to our loneliness, for example, can be found at the bottom of a takeaway container, then we need to rethink things.

With the incredible past of our modern society, it's easy to get caught up in the noise, and to let that quiet inner voice fall by the wayside... instead choosing to distract ourselves with gross consumption.

But if you've ever found yourself endlessly searching for happiness, but never quite getting there, that small voice within you may be the only one that you need to heed.


Ever wondered how to upgrade yourself from this syndrome? Discover the three ways you can enrich your life with meditation in Emily Fletcher's brand new Free Masterclass, Meditation For Super Performance. 


Do you suffer from the "I'll be happy when..." syndrome? Have you ever set yourself external goals to feel an internal void? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Emily Fletcher

Emily Fletcher

Emily Fletcher is one of the world’s leading experts in meditation. She’s been invited to teach at places like Google, Harvard Business School and The Omega — but that’s a stark contrast to the busy, stressed Broadway performer that she was years earlier. During her 10-year career on Broadway, which included roles in Chicago, The Producers and A Chorus Line, she started to go grey at 27, suffer from insomnia and get sick 4-5 times a year. Thankfully, she discovered a powerful meditation practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. After years of studying ancient practices in India and teaching thousands of high performers, Emily created Ziva Meditation, a mental technique that combines the stress-relieving benefits of meditation with the mental clarity of mindfulness.

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